Tuesday, February 14, 2012

25 YEARS OF VALENTINE'S DAYS !!!!

Happy Valentine's Day everyone !! Twenty- Five years ago today Phyllis and I were married!! It is hard to believe it has been 25 years. I have been blessed!!! It has been the best twenty five years of my life!!  Some of you know the story but for those who don't I'll write a quick synopsis. I first met Phyllis at her christening a few months after she was born! Before you start wondering what kind of person I am, I was only 5 years old. Our families were always close, her dad Carmen was my fathers best man at his wedding! I tell Phyllis that I looked into her crib and said " Someday I'm going to be there with you"!!! Well it took to many years ( 34) but I lived up to my word!! 
I was living in Arizona at the time, we had not seen each other in 10 years, Phyllis heard that I was getting divorced and wrote me a letter saying that she was sorry to hear about my divorce ( sure she was  lol). I called her that night and every night for a month. That was in July, I told her I might be back in Massachusetts in a year. By the end of the next week I changed that to two weeks.  I visited in August and on the second day asked her to marry me. We discussed it for about 6 hours and finally I said " Phyllis, why not? What have we got lose?" She said " you know your right, okay YES !!  I fell off the couch lol.
I went back to Massachusetts  with the understanding that we  would be married in a year. But I didn't want to wait. I called her that night and asked her if she wanted to wait that long. She said she didn't. That was August, I said what about Valentine's Day, she quickly said that was great. We were married that Valentine's day!  After not seeing each other for 10 years we were married in seven months. You know there were people saying," Sure this will work!!" But it did and 25 years later we are more in love then ever!! 
I read many poems out here about people looking for love, lost love and the one that got away! I guess were proof that love is out there for everyone, you just have to look for it and listen to your heart and brain. Marriage can be the best of times ( with the right person) of the worse of times ( with the wrong person). We have been the lucky ones but don't think it is easy, it takes work to keep a marriage strong! A commitment to each other. We have had arguments , some loud  What do you expect were both italian!! We told each other we would never go the bed mad with each other. Boy that was stupid lol
 The secret is never forget that you each love each other. Always ask yourselves  " Are they trying to hurt me? More then likely the answer is no, Were human and make mistakes. It does't mean the love is gone. Work at it, its hard sometimes.  But it is worth it, the rewards are that great!!
Here are some images of my lovely wife, Phyllis!!!




 This is Phyllis with our beautiful niece Allegra.




 Phyllis sharing our love of the outdoors and photography!!




 Phyllis after a two mile vertical hike up a mesa in Sedona at 6AM ! There are times when I am reminded how much she loves me, this was one of those times lol.








 Phyllis enjoying the ocean here in Florida!





 Phyllis looking at another beautiful day in Florida!!




 If your married to a photographer, your going to have your picture taken!! A lot!!






 One of my favorite pictures of Phyllis.






 I wish you all a year containing 365 Valentine's Days!!

20 comments:

melissa said...

Happy Wedding Anniversary Jim and Phyllis :D Yes, I think I read that somewhere posted in your album. I seldom see men write something so beautiful, heart warming and touching ~ this is the best. It's something written straight from the heart.

I love every image you took of Phyllis. She always has a smile on her face :)

HAPPY VALENTINE'S to you both ~ all the wonderful blessings God may give :)

Widow_Lady302 said...

Happy Valentines day and anniversary! Loving this post! Congrats on a love of a lifetime! <3

Lucy Patterson said...

Here's to another 25 years of happiness! Congrats to you both x

Corinne Rodrigues said...

Congratulations on your special anniversary, Phyllis and Jim! Love your story ♥

sulekkha said...

Congratulations on your quarter century :) Wish you many more anniversaries to come. Happy valentine's day to you both.

Martha J. M. Orlando said...

Happy and sweet anniversary to you both! Such a romantic story of how the two of you ended up together. The perfect Valentine's couple!
Blessings to both of you!

BlogNostics said...

Jim and Phyllis,

Happy Anniversary on this Valentines Day

What is the secret

: )
xoxox
Jesss

Rimly said...

Happy Anniversary Jim and Phyllis. You are such a romantic Jim. Phyllis you are a lucky one!!!Loved those pics!

http://rimlybezbaruah.blogspot.in/2012/02/lingering.html

Debbie M. said...

Jim and Phyllis, Happy Anniversary and Valentine's Day!! Such a lovely couple I've enjoyed your adventures for almost 2 years now (wow it's been that long) Is Phyllis finally used to you snapping her shot when ever? I think it'd take some time getting used too.

Happy Valentine's Day to you both!

http://scatteredmusings.net/2012/02/valentines-day-simple-and-sweet/

forjenssake said...

Happy anniversary Jim and Phyllis and many many more. You can tell it's love because what woman would allow that many photos to be taken and posted publicly online. lol My post is about a wedding on Valentine's Day as well, but still very very different. https://forjenssake.wordpress.com/2012/02/14/valentines-day-valerian-root/

Andy said...

Hello Jim.
Happy Anniversary to you & Phyllis! Loved your story.
I recently celebrated my 10th Wedding Anniversary & even though it was special...our official date...everyday since the day we met & fell in love has been a day worth celebrating. Here's to the next 25, my friend!
Thanks for sharing.

Endless Love And Devotion

Sullfam said...

Hi Jim and Phyllis, it's Marty Ricky's friend. Happy Anniversary....

Marty

Jewell said...

Happy Anniversary Jim and Phyllis! May every day be Valentine's Day for another 25 blissful years! ((( hugs to you both )))

Jan said...

Happy Valentine's Day and Anniversary!!! Beautiful words you speak of your marriage and wife. I am so happy for you that you both have this love. Randy knows a bit about being married to a person behind a camera lol, I am always getting shots of him. If we had 2 cameras and he had time he would be doing the same thing as I. How blessed you both are.

janaki nagaraj said...

Happy Silver Wedding Anniversary and many more years of togetherness...such a heart warming post.

sweepyjean said...

Happy anniversary, Jim, to you and your beautiful wife. It's wonderful that you two share important interests. I bet that's the secret to your lasting relationship! All the best!

JIM said...

We both thank each and everyone of you for your kind words and thoughts. We realize we are very lucky to have each other and were hoping for another 25 !!!!

Jim

Motifs said...

Happy anniversary Jim and Phyllis..May God bless u both always.

Autumn Eliza said...

Oh, so wonderful, just like a fairy-tale! I am so sorry that i didn't read it earlier, otherwise I'd have shown this to my BF. Well, dear Jim and dear Phyllis, we would take you as our ideal pair and i hope that God will bless us like He has blessed you. I am so happy for you both!
-ELLE

Mani said...

Wish u a v happy wedding anniversary Jim. Its a beautiful story and phyllis looks so v sweet. Wish u another 25 years of togetherness, god bless u both.

Love
Mani